Legalized Gay Marriage: How To Respond

As of today, June 26th, 2015, the Supreme Court of the United States of America has overturned state bans on same-sex marriages, effectively legalizing gay marriage in the entire country. This situation is dangerous to Christians, but not for the reasons you may be thinking. Immediate reaction to this court decision was met with anger, discontent, and sadness from Christians from all around social media, but this isn’t the way we should respond because those feelings are a trap.
It’s very easy to get caught up in feeling like non-believers are all gathered somewhere taunting Christ followers because something the majority of us believe is sinful is now legal in our country. It can feel like they’re ‘throwing it in our face’ because they won some imaginary contest and we lost. This isn’t at all the case and we as Christians need to understand a few things:
We can’t expect non-believers to live by Christian morals. To do so would be ludicrous. Homosexuals are offended by Christians because we continuously tell them that their lifestyle is sinful and they genuinely don’t believe that. We can’t force that on non-believers. In Matthew 19:4-6, Jesus says that the Scriptures state that God made them male and female and a man will leave his family to go marry his wife. A man and a wife is how Jesus himself defined marriage. We believe that. We cannot, however, expect people that don’t accept Jesus as their Savior to believe that as well.
This is not God’s Nation. For so long, Christianity was cultural normalcy in America and Christian morals were followed by the majority of the population. That’s not the case anymore. This Earth and its inhabitants have turned away from God. In John 18:36 Jesus to Pilate, “My Kingdom is not an earthly kingdom. If it were, my followers would fight to keep me from being handed over to the Jewish leaders. But my Kingdom is not of this world.” When we declare that we are followers of King Jesus, we must understand that we are not physically living in His kingdom right now. When we die, we’ll go to be with Him in His kingdom, but that’s not here or now. We can’t expect our government to be Christ followers anymore or align with those morals because that isn’t representative of the state of our world.
God doesn’t honor a marriage license. God honors those that draw close to Him and keep Him at the center of their lives. Marriage works the same way. God will only honor a marriage that has Him fundamentally built into the center of. James 4:8 tells us, “Come close to God and He will come close to you. And verse 10 says, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up in honor.” So no, God doesn’t honor gay marriage, nor does God honor a straight marriage that doesn’t have Him invited to be in the middle. Instead of blaming non-believers for somehow ‘ruining the sanctity of marriage’, we need to first focus on the sanctity of our own marriages or relationships or personal lives and making sure that God is the cornerstone of it all.
Getting angry or upset over the world being the world doesn’t do anything constructive for the Kingdom. We need to respond with love and grace in the face of adversity and remember that sin has deceived the world and the cure is Jesus. It’s understandable that as Christians, we’re passionate about our faith and morals. We want to defend our Jesus and what He did for the world at all costs, but getting mad about the sinful nature of the world isn’t the way to carry on His legacy.
We should first wash our hands of our own sin before the Lord, pray for the world and our leaders that Jesus be revealed to them, and go love on people with no strings attached. People keep “hash-tagging” today that #LoveWins – it’s time we show them that our God IS love. Don’t fall into the dangerous traps of anger and frustration, instead, clothe yourself with love. Wear grace like a blanket and share the true, unfiltered love of Jesus with others today. That’s how we can see the world become more Christ-like.

Jon Hill

I'm a 28 year old husband, father of 3, Christian DJ, PlayStation fanboy, and retro video game collector from Chesapeake, VA.


  1. Gabriel H on August 18, 2015 at 9:08 pm

    Or I mean, you could support people’s human rights and be an actual decent human being? Literally, stop comparing loving same-sex relationships with murder and other disgusting things, It just shows how much of hateful person you are. And no, I don’t live a “lifestyle.”

    Gay people are not offended by God, they are offended by the fact that you think they deserve to be seen as lesser human beings under the law, we are not asking for special rights or dislike God. We dislike the fact you try and justify your hatred of us by using the bible as a crutch and cherry pick verses to abuse us and throw stones at us. We dislike the fact you say you love us but you turn your backs on the exact statement and call our relationships sinful and compare us to horrid and disgusting problems in society. It is literally like saying, “I don’t hate you, I love you, but I just think you don’t deserve to be treated fairly is all.”

    Here I was actually thinking this website was different, boy was I wrong. I am so glad people like you are being seen as what you really are: bigoted scum.

    • Drew Koehler on August 18, 2015 at 10:56 pm

      I’m not entirely sure you read the article or you would not respond the way you just did. No where did the author diminish the humanity of a gay person. Then you resort to name calling at the end of your comment which I’m not sure you did something any better than you are accusing the author of doing.
      This article was in response to how to show love to gay people and not treat them like sub-citizens but it appears you had your comment prepared before you even read the article.

      • Gabriel H on August 27, 2015 at 11:26 pm

        Oh I did read the article and still stand by what I said, I’m never welcome in christian circles because of my sexuality. The article implies since I am gay that I am apparently a “non-believer” which is really narrow minded. The idea that I am living a “lifestyle” also is really annoying to hear, you have no clue how it old it gets.

  2. Bethany Elise on June 29, 2015 at 6:02 pm

    Thank you for posting this; this is something I needed to hear.

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