Welcome to the daily devotional we have. This is a learning process for me as I go along and I hope you can join me. I will pick a devotional on www.bible.com (feel free to go there and pick the same reading plan) and be posting the verse(s), devotional, and my own personal commentary. Feel free to leave your own commentary in the comments as I would love to read your guys thoughts. Also, I will have a video that relates to the devotional.
This devotional is titled “Living With Integrity”. It is 7 days long. I use the ESV bible but feel free to use the version of your choosing.
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”
Have you noticed? It can be a challenge to say, “I’m sorry.” Oh, it’s not hard to speak the words, but it can be tough to say them with sincerity. Why? Probably because we understand that to apologize is to accept responsibility for ill-spoken words or misbehavior. It requires humility on our part, which can often be confused with giving someone else the upper hand over us. That’s why apologies tend to be viewed as a weakness.
It’s also why people offer apologies that have been stripped of any real meaning. We minimize the severity of our actions; we blame our behavior on others; or maybe we say all the right words, but dilute them with sarcasm or humor. Whatever the method, we recognize a false act of contrition when we see it because the result is always the same: the appearance of an apology without the substance of one. And rather than healing, shallow platitudes often deepen a loved one’s wounds. Like a doctor’s empty syringe, an empty apology pierces the soul but offers nothing that can bring healing.
That’s why, far from being a weakness, a heart-felt apology requires strength because it demands deep sincerity on behalf of the person offering it. That inner strength and humility often requires God’s grace to express. The Lord’s role is crucial because mending a relationship-gone-wrong has little to do with the specific words we use to express our contrition. The healing comes from the authenticity we pour into our words and actions.
It can be hard to say “I’m sorry” and mean it. It is real easy to do otherwise. Heck, people do it all the time instinctively. When pretty much anything accidental happens, we just say the words. I know over time that I have developed my brain to decipher how to apologize. If I am sorry about something but it was not my fault then I say “I apologize for ______”. If I did something and I am to blame then I say “I am sorry for ______”. It goes unnoticed by everyone, however to me it means something to say I am sorry. One thing that bugs me is when people want an apology for having their feelings hurt. If I have done nothing wrong, such as just telling you the truth about something, then I am not apologizing. This is not an act of arrogance or just being a class A jerk. I know a lot of people feel like they are spitting truth but are actually presenting their words in a “I am right, you are wrong” manner. I despise this and avoid it at all costs.
To get back on point, saying I am sorry is hard and requires you to drop your pride. However, don’t let your words become meaningless. If you say it then mean it. No need to apologize for having your foot accidentally touch mine on the bus.