3 Basic Things To Look For In A Christian Man/Woman

I know a lot of single Christians are trying to find the right match for them. It can be tough in a world that doesn’t have the same standards as we do. So what exactly should we be looking for in the opposite sex? None of us want to divorce, and the next person we kiss should be the last person we kiss.
Just a heads up that these are in order of importance and are just the essentials. Everyone has little things they like and don’t like.


1. He/She Needs To Share The Same Faith

If the other person isn’t a Christian as well… then why even bother? You guys will constantly butt heads and there is a very good chance your morals won’t line up. In fact if they are an atheist or “agnostic” then it’s likely they won’t have any moral standards whatsoever. They will sway with the world. The Bible even tells us to avoid being with non-believers in a marriage.
2 Corinthians 6:14
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”


2. You Get Along And Can Be Friends

What seems like a no brainer, actually isn’t to some. Lots of us will date others who we don’t even like for many reasons. You like the pre-martial sex, you feel pressured to stay with them, you don’t want to be alone, or whatever reason you date anyway.
Why you want to date someone you won’t marry is beyond me. Even if you do marry them then why would you want to join the legions of people who get divorced or are unhappily married? Simply put, if a day where you guys don’t have sex or argue seems impossible, then you aren’t really friends.


3. You Two Are Attracted To Each Other

Do I really need to explain this one? If they aren’t attractive but meet #1 and #2 then just be good friends.


What are some things you look for? Let me know in the comments!


Wesley Wood

Wesley Wood is an aspiring film director. He would love to make GOOD films to help spread God's word and help Christians grow.


  1. CJC on January 31, 2015 at 10:52 pm

    While this post isn’t necessarily inaccurate, I do contest the validity of parts of the points. Atheists and agnostics can have morals. The difference is that they have no logical foundation for those morals. However, it isn’t right to so harshly draw a line between ‘us’ and ‘them’. I agree on the definition of unequally yoked, but the way it was presented seems a bit inaccurate. Also, “attractive” can be interpreted in a variety of ways. To some people, that sounds like you are speaking of physicality alone. True beauty is found inside someone, and what should be attractive is the light of Christ inside your chosen partner.

    • Wesley Wood on February 1, 2015 at 1:14 am

      “Likely won’t have any moral standards whatsoever”. This means their morals will sway. Yours should not since they are based on the Bible. This can be an issue. I sure hope you are attracted to someone you want to be with. Attractive is subjective to whatever you find attractive.

  2. RLW on January 28, 2015 at 6:06 pm

    Must agree with your comments. There is a lot of pressure to stay in relationships that are simply NOT working, especially if the couple has a child together, if the person’s family pressures them to marry a certain “type” of person, or because somehow an individual is now financially dependent on the other person. Sometimes it is difficult to see the forest for the trees…or in other words…see what everyone else is seeing from an outside perspective.

    Selecting a life mate is a very important decision. Outside of following Jesus Christ as your personal Savior, whom you choose to spend your natural life here on earth with can make or break your happiness here on earth.

    Remember, the “hotness” eventually goes away. You have to LOVE and be attracted to who the person is inside in order to stay the course when the exterior and gravity meet.

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